I was hurting. I felt my heart constrict from that hurt. Sometimes I forgot to breathe in or out. Tears were streaming against my will. It was hard to look at every little thing that reminded me of them. I couldn’t listen to our favourite music or eat our favourite ice cream. Memories, especially pictures, only hurt me.
Have you felt the same way? You’re not alone; so have I.
I’ve heard that time heals all wounds, but the moment I was alone, I thought that it was impossible to move on from this. As a result, I withdrew into myself, into my negative emotions. It only lasted a few days because I’m a person who wants to share and be cared for. I let myself feel everything – hurt, sadness, disappointment. It was the first and right step. If I wanted to cry, I cried. I have a friend – a real friend who always picks up my calls.
One night I cried so hard that I couldn’t calm myself down, so I called the friend. They asked me what I was feeling, what I was thinking, and directed me with questions to analyse my emotions. They made me realise that a lot depends on what is going on in my head. I realised that my feelings and thoughts are my responsibility. And I had to take responsibility and move on. Alone, but moving on. I prioritised myself and decided that this experience will only make me stronger. I still felt sadness and hurt, but it was okay. I started doing things I liked, such as going to the spa.
I also decided that if I wanted to say something to my ex, I would write it in the notes app on my phone and then delete it – then I’ve said what I wanted to and it’s done (you can also say it out loud). I also made up an exercise – if I started to cry or felt that I can’t think about the break-up any longer, I would write down things I do well. It actually helped!
Please share your feelings, cry, write, take your mind off it and keep yourself constantly busy. Help others, read books, take care of yourself, busy yourself with your hobbies. In other words, do things that make you happy. Getting over a break-up takes time, but you can do it. You’re not alone. I felt it too!
Published on the youth information portal Teeviit in 2022.
