Sadly, most of us face painful break-ups during our lives. It can hurt both parties involved, but it is important to be able to cope with yourself and your emotions.
Break-ups can happen for different reasons. A relationship can become problematic and unhealthy, i.e. involve exploitation and dishonesty. It can happen that the two people simply do not feel the same way about each other, or that they fall out and are unable to make amends and restore the relationship.
After a break-up, it is important to try to understand your partner and to cope with your own emotions. You could be overcome by frustration, sadness, the pain of loss, humiliation and even hatred. Talking about your feelings and describing what you have experienced is a crucial part of recovery and restoration of your wellbeing. It will give you more confidence to enter a relationship in the future and to deal with your emotions.
To get over the break-up and move on with your life, try the following:
- Share your sorrow and tell your friends or family about the situation and let them console you.
- Shedding tears is perfectly normal – let go of the pain and the tension and you will feel much lighter afterwards.
- Write about what happened in a diary or just on a piece of paper. Write about what happened and why – it will help you digest your thoughts and perhaps things will no longer seem so hard.
- Try to do activities that take your mind elsewhere, such as exercising, doing hobbies, cooking, or watching a film.
The article is based on the Estonian Sexual Health Association www.seksuaaltervis.ee website.
The Estonian Sexual Health Association is an advocacy organisation for sexual and reproductive health and rights.
Published in the youth information portal Teeviit in 2022.
